I’ve been struggling with chronic illness for most of my life, and have known mold to be the cause for the part few years. I knew it was part of my story before, but not the root issue. I thought it was the autoimmunity and the chronic Lyme, and by addressing those parts of the story, I maintained some level of functionality. It was easy to figure out Wesley was also being affected by mold though he never thought he was. The dead give away was the three day headache following moving a thermostat out of the room in my old office that was in waiting to be remediated. That pattern was one that was very repeatable.
One of the many topics we covered in premarital counseling was the topic of kids. I always thought it better to not pass on my genetics bc there’s a genetic component to autoimmunity so I’d been anti me having birth for that reason. I was also fearful of being a violently ill pregnant lady like my friends with similar health issues as me. Wesley always wanted a huge family, but has also had a desire to adopt. We decided we’d adopt kids and I wouldn’t have to birth kids.
We got married and last August went on our camping trip in ID and MT that showed us location effect. We came back to Iowa and we both struggled, though I was the one that completely fell apart. We ultimately decided to try extreme mold avoidance. Most people thought we were crazy, but we sold everything, Wesley quit his job, I closed my business, and we flew to ABQ 6 weeks later. As you’ve followed us, there have been huge ups and downs along the way, but about 8 months in we were both feeling really good, Wesley had started his business, we’d learned to feel and avoid mystery toxin, and we were more stable in location. I started pondering what adopting would look like for us. It looked impossible being we had used so much of our money doing mold avoidance and adoptions were expensive done privately and we couldn’t have foster kids in and out of our living situation until parental rights were terminated so I began rethinking maybe having biological kids was the best way. We knew the root issue for our physical and mental health struggles was toxins, and that our kids would be raised in that paradigm fully equipped to handle their possible toxin related health issues someday. I pondered this a few weeks before talking to Wesley about it bc I knew he’d be all in. I was right and we decided to see what happened if we just stopped preventing pregnancy. Well what happened was I got pregnant right away. I was still swimming 1 hour to 1 hour 45 min each day and thriving in life the first few weeks and that turned into reacting to everything again and questioning if I’d just made the biggest mistake of my life. I’ll not go into the severe darkness of my emotions, but it was really bad bc I’d just made amazing health gains to get slammed back into the ground. In that time you saw me blogging about lots of traveling again, not doing well, and puking allot. The nausea was constant for awhile; Vitamin B6 was a real help for the nausea. If I got into too much mystery toxin, I still puked and that was happening way more than I cared for it to happen in FL. We had been keeping hotel rooms 6-11 days prior and before we finally left FL for Mississippi, we were down to 1-2 nights with me going through 4 in a day and a half. It was beyond time to leave, but I really wanted the community of our hotel family, which is why we came back after going to San Angelo.
We drove through the town we’d stayed at in Oklahoma earlier this year on our way back from San Angelo and would’ve stayed, but they were sold out. There was mystery toxin, but not so much it wasn’t tolerable. After our stay in Mississippi, we came back to Oklahoma. I’ve gotten back up the power curve, and while my body is more sensitive than before, I have mostly good days again. The staff here are AMAZING, like you’ve never experienced hospitality like this amazing.
I’ve found a midwife here in OK. I had a dream I was carrying twins so I was willing to get an ultrasound after I was palpating high fundal height. It’s only one baby so I don’t have to find a new midwife. This little one should be here mid to late February. Our plan right now is to stay in hotels, but we’re also casually looking at properties in this area too. Agriculture destruction of the biome is pretty destructive to me so we need to experience March through mid August bc we left during that time and I was still first trimester sensitive when we came through on our way through from San Angelo. It was bad then and OK felt bad driving through, but summer may never cease to be the thorn in my flesh health-wise. In Iowa, winter was my only good season bc ag ruined every other season.